The Emerging Revamped Face of Politics

I love the fact that politics is now taking a whole different dimension, gradually grinding away from the old primeval assumptions. The old dogmas that propelled politics in the wrong direction, now like an old slice of fabric, they are progressively tending towards becoming vestige and utterly irrelevant in the present day. Gone are the days when feigned charisma, plutocracy or any other phony attributes could irrevocably contour your way into political sovereignty, today the ordeal is a different piece of cake. We want to narrow down to the grades you got in school and whether they were genuinely credited or “river road made” and we don’t even stop at that, presently we even dig further to establish whether the papers you presented for your MBA were you own work or an upshot of plagiarism.

In regard to the latter if you are eying a political post in any future and still in the process of your education, viper tool is one of the paraphernalia you desperately need to have in the list of your software’s. At a mere student inclined evaluation plagiarism hardly looks any sinister or devious but that what it is. It got all it takes to bring you down form the top of the political pinnacle to grass in a wink of an eye. Long before you even notice you cannot be trusted even in your own profession because as one father Augustine once put it, “when regard for truth is broken down or slightly weakened, everything becomes doubtful”. It’s when it gets to such a level that the risk of the whole endeavor can sufficiently be understood and with hardy mutilations to show it all.

John Walsh the democrat who is eying the position of senator among the Montanans in USA, presents a good example though far from home but a pretty good illustration of the new shape and direction that politics is gradually taking. Walsh has been caught in a plagiarism scandal of a paper he submitted in the United States Army war college back in 2007. Probably aware of the implications this could have on his political career, he has suggested that his behavior could have been shaped by a mental health challenge he suffered while on combat duty in Iraq. While, we know them for giving excuses, promises that cannot stand the test of time and faked characters to maneuver crowd expectation but Mr. Walsh, this was too vague and naïve.

Bringing the point home, we know of those endless court injunctions that have marred the political arena all inclined to one direction, authenticity of academic papers. In the very present past there has been a notable number of legislators who have been served with writs to go and defend the candidness of their degrees and others with such cases still pending. This in itself is an evidence of the simmering revolution in politics which is taking a global shape and we should be more than willing to embrace it so as to give a new look to the already dented politics antics.

The point here is, the illogical assumptions that were initially vital ingredients of what I would like to call political broth are making a slow and painful slide to irrelevancy and so are the partakers of the same. The indefensible timeworn dogma that politics is a ‘dirty game’ has now lost its ground and dramatically shattering away. The ‘game’ is taking a promising positive overhaul and the big question now is, do we have the right players to take up the positions and play the game right?!

The gradually Shattering social fabric

    Were it a trade union or anything close to that, it could most likely than not be top in the list both in frequency and overall number of industrial actions. Still if learning from other people’s  experiences was the surest and most effective way to gauge the level of prudence as the old and those who claimed to have a great share of wits once put it, then marriage and relationships is one treacherous path I would choose never to trend on. Family was a God instituted and initialized union - that I believe holistically. However, I wonder gauging from the current state of events whether God is really a part of these “mergers”. Yes I believe God is and should be the core ingredient of any relationship, but it would be kidding to tell me that by any chance God is part those heinous manifestations that are prevalent in the current day relations. Chances then are, people are not sufficiently cognizant of who God is and what He is capable of doing. He initiated relations and I believe respects them and so we cannot blame Him  in event of such fraudulent associations.

       As far as I can recall, several years back, if I was given a choice between celibacy and marriage by default I would straightforwardly settle for the latter, but today the same would be a dilemma. Marriage from a mum’s and dad’s view was one captivating thing, essentially if my memory serves me right we had these dummy weddings as kids for every break we had out of class because we esteemed what we saw from our parents.

       Today I read about and envy those days when fidelity levels in relation leading to, and marriages was among the litmus test against which public office holders were appraised by the voters. Those days when just like the duping test and athletes, many big charismatic political icons were vehemently tumbled down for harboring dubious relations outside matrimony. Remember President Bill Clinton’s dalliance with Monica Lewinsky which was explicitly described day after day and which later led to his impeachment?! Any seemingly lewd conduct from a public office holder that come to the public domain (and which in most cases did) was like a volley of bullets on ones forehead that had a predetermined result – demise of the political career. However, such scandal-tarred politicians today seem to be the major ingredient in political icing, we the voters don’t ever even seem to notice them or maybe we can’t stand the guilt of criticizing engagements we also plunged in! Consequently, this has gradually trickled down from the political pinnacle and the reality is, a best portion of the population is now marred by such affairs. Today, clandestine relationships are things people are indiscriminately engaging in, talking about over drinks in condominium rendezvous and worst still even calling in radio stations with no shred of temerity to confess about.

        We have heard of all sort of experiences that happen within the confines of these relations, some worse than scenes of a horror movies, so egregious I believe, to trigger a quiver to even the fiends. We hear and watch them on broadcast media, read about them on the print media and for some, have the ‘privilege’ of seeing  them one on one; a couple die in a love triangle (whatever that means), a daughter kills her guardian, man rapes his three year old daughter, woman’s plot to kill her husband is tipped off to the police, man shots his wife and three kids then commits suicide, man in custody on allegations of rapping and stabbing his ‘lover’ severely, a woman batters her husband over extramarital affair …, and the list is endless. Essentially this has become piece we can’t miss on any news item and as one would put it there is little to smile about in the current day relations.

        Have interacted with a good deal of my obvious bachelor friends (birds of the same feather) and a bigger percentage seems to have joined in this chorus of, “I would rather live a celibate like Paul of the holy book”.  However, before my hammer rested on the gong to mark my eventual inclination I thought engaging with them that have successfully swam across this seemingly alligator infested river would help. Reality is, few of them especially the writers seems to have no clear explanation of how exactly they actualized it, for most it’s mystery that is culminated by the phrase like, “we somewhat made it”. Consequently the whole issue has become a stand out paradox, reliable research has it that, there is a high number of entrants into marriage relations and an immensely bloating number of those exiting, with at least one divorce case filled in a court of law each and every day.  With generous number of years still lingering I hope to somewhat find a satisfactorily enlightenment to this touchy concern. Nonetheless, my worry is for those that would what a satisfactory response now or now.

       If you took a risk of doing an intent research on the number of people who are not contented and doomed by their relations and if statistics is anything to go by, in the first five minutes of your research you will be amazed by the number of confessions from diverse number of people that are held in the servers strewn across the globe. In the same five minutes of your study you will also out-and-out appreciate the fundamental need for caution while handling relationship issues. If you are cynical enough you will swear to yourself and by all deities never to be part of any kind of relationship not to mention the regrets for the progesterone/estrogen deposits sited deep down in your DNA and whose control you sparingly have.  For the passionate about relations you will join in the song, “you got be a conscious man/woman when falling in love” until that time you decide to culminate your research because chances are you cannot do even a quarter of the electronic materials available for crosscheck. If up to this point you are thinking am out to scare you, your name has successfully found its way in the manuscript of weaklings and if you thinking of restructuring your approach to the whole relationship issue then you got it flawlessly right!

Close scrutiny and counter scrutiny has revealed innumerable number of reasons that have seemingly led to the current state of affairs in matrimonies. Among them:

Lack of appropriate consultation

A one renown writer and humorists Mark Twain Wrote, “when I was fourteen my father was so ignorant I could hardly bear him, but the time I was twenty one I was amazed to see how much he had learned in only seven years”. This is the kind of attitude folks seem to harbor about people who should otherwise guide them, may be blinded by or blind for love and before you recover from the blindness and irrational   ego, you are in the middle of a quagmire. As you wade through the mud (this time alone) to self-recovery you have not only wasted time but left with only one option blaring to your ears –divorce. While, you may have learned sufficiently through own experience but with your name in the list of fools for obvious reason - not learning from wise counsel and other people experiences.

Making of uninformed decisions

I remember the words of one peer counsellor who once advised us that, if the motive of any action is not morally upright and well-grounded so will be the decision. It this that has kept me firmly grounded for the past twenty years have been around and I believe still will for the possibly next twenty years to come before such a decision is made. Research shows that people get into marriages for various imprudent reasons among them: financial instability, social insecurity and desire to share responsibilities. When such expectations are not meet then divorce and other heinous acts results. If motives are right you have it right, otherwise you could be trending on a very dangerous path.

“The little side dish” -infidelity

We may put up all theories and jerky philosophies to rationalize this but one fact still holds, unfaithfulness from whatsoever angle of view whether in relations or unions is a wicked thing. I have relentlessly tried to question a few people on how and why this results and apart from the usual selfish validation of the practice from some, the few among them that were genuine had always this to say, “You will sufficiently get to know when time comes”. While, until that time comes if it will ever come then I beg to put a period on this.

False fallacy that relationships are a stroll in the park

We need to agree in unison that there are certain things we see and which can only happen where we see them, Hollywood relationships for example. Some things are best acted and not unless you want to ‘act’ a relationship then some primitive prospects about relationships you need to drop them and avoid them like any contagious ailment. Nothing comes on a silver platter, like success, I believe relations are natured from consistent discipline and outright commitment. They are full of ups and downs and marred with shocks that you need to learn how to absorb and even recover from. Essentially, getting into one courtesy of the research is accepting that you got adequate torque to counter such adversaries. 

Wrong intents for getting into relationships

If you aren’t in a cult then I utterly believe the stipulations and expectations of marriage relations are comprehensively dictated in your religious books. Live by them, you are safe, ditch them and you then get an equal share of the troubles.  

Another misconception, individuality.

After adequate interaction with the lives both behind and in front of the counter in nation building endeavours, one thing is for sure, a good repute is as priceless as any precious pearl. Give your clients a shoddy treat and the next day as you check your fiscal standings, the effects of such will be unequivocally reflected. Yes, you what to be skinned alive financially? Mess with your client attitude or merely portray that negative attitude as you engage them and you will be in for it!

While, PR is not solely inclined to business, it’s a cardinal prerequisite in how we relate in our day to day interactions. Its false fallacy for a moment to think that, it’s an option to harbor cordial relations with that stranger you shared a pew with in a public lecture, that folk you sat next to in the public commuter van, that guy that constantly visits your work station to asks what you consider FAQs that even basic logic can sumptuously answer, among others. Get it from me, they all mean volumes to you. Looking down on such could be adequately alluded to what one wittily called burning bridges or hurling insult to a midwife on assumption that, that was the last contact you had with them.

Life was engineered I believe by God to be vastly propped by relations some which spring from our day to day interactions and others like family that we spontaneously found ourselves in. If you critically crossed checked your life, you will easily notice that much of who you are is highly pegged not to your own ability but other people’s ability. Also as you check and counter recheck your life, you come head on with the nude fact that independence is a non-practical concept especially when dealing with human. If any miracle was to happen today and everything that was not made by me/you is to be taken away from us, a good number of us will go naked because the gowns and suits you are clad in are efforts of another individual somewhere in the globe and chances are you don’t have any finite idea of how it was made. So even with all your opulence you inescapably need people around you and that calls for a need to treat them soundly with absolute esteem.